Thursday, July 17, 2014

A bit of a reflection

This is a picture of me during our San Diego trip...  35 weeks

This is a bit of an aside from my normal crafty posts, but I just wanted to share about what has been going on for the past few weeks. The baby has been growing so steadily. I've dubbed baby as my little kicker because it is so active and strong.

As the time approaches to welcome this little bundle into my life - I find my thoughts wandering to this changing season. Questions of what life will be like... how it will change.

Ross and I have decided that I will stay home with the baby. For those of you reading who are stay at home moms, do you remember your thoughts before reality hit? I keep wondering if I'll be ok. If I'll be able to weather the change with grace...

I love being home. I've always been more of a homebody than anything - but there's a difference between wanting to stay home and having to stay home isn't there?

Please don't think I'm complaining about having to stay home. I find myself unbelievably blessed to be able to stay home and raise our child in the way that Ross and I want to. I'll be able to stay home and witness all of this child's life...

So why am I nervous? Well.. having worked in education and being active in the community - I kinda feel like I'll miss it. I feel like the thoughts though I've been having though are residual feelings from closing that particular season of my life. I will miss the educational setting... But I'm realizing that just because I'll be staying home doesn't mean that I won't be teaching and learning. I'll just have a smaller more intimate circle in which to teach. And God has been so good. I know He knows me - and my needs. He has been increasing my piano students and even opened up opportunities to include teaching/tutoring some homeschooling students in writing and composition. All of these working opportunities can be done from home... what a blessing! And most importantly - I'll have this child to teach and learn from on a daily basis!

I've been reading a lot about transitioning to being a stay at home mom. And there have been some nuggets of wisdom that have really stuck to me. I've actually started trying to do them and lately it has given me a confidence booster.  I'd like to share them... Some places I've been reading have been here and here. If you have other articles or blog posts that are helpful please send them my way! I'd love to read more! =) 

1. The first tip that stuck out to me was that a routine should be established.
          Lately I've been getting up, showering, getting dressed, putting in my contacts, and even putting on the minimal amount of make up I usually put on for work: eyeliner and chapstick. Now - if you know anything about me it would be that I love being home in my boxers and eyeglasses whenever I have day off... which usually makes me feel relaxed and ready for a day of sewing or movies or both. But getting ready for the day as if I were going to work - makes me ready for work!
          Also, I've started my morning devotional time again... ::hanging head:: I'm ashamed to say that I've gotten out of the habit of reading and praying in the morning... today is a new day though and starting it off with the Lord has been amazing and healing! =)

2. The second was structure.
          I LOVE To - Do lists. Being able to cross them off and get a sticker for a completed day has always been my weakness. I use school planners that have a monthly calendar as well as weekly calendar. The month calendar is used for birthdays and anniversaries  (so we can budget ahead and I can plan for homemade items) and appointments. The weekly calendar works as my To-Do list area. This is where I also plan my menu for the week so I can make sure I have all the ingredients in my fridge and pantry for the week. (Great budget tip!)
A couple of other tips were to have house cleaning chores set on certain days. For example in my mind - floors and bathrooms would be scrubbed on monday. Laundry would be tackled on Tuesday... etc. 

3. Another tip was to get out of the house 2-3 times a week. 
            Ross and I attended a Dave Ramsey class with the young people of our church before we were married, and we learned SO MUCH about budgeting and living within your means. So - I made a list of places I could go that wouldn't stretch the budget so much. 
            1. Library - books for me and books for baby! 
            2. Park for walks - a place to get the required vitamin D! 
            3. Another fellow stay at home mom's house - where a bit of baking and coffee could be   
                shared over a visit. =) 
            4. On brave days - beach days. =) 
            5. On less brave days - picnics in the backyard with a picnic quilt that I've been drafting in my     
So - from point two - needing structure. One or two days would be outing days... as long as the cleaning and laundry were done! =) Perhaps Thursdays or Fridays. =) Wednesdays would be set aside for appointments. Baby appointments, doctors, dentist etc. And then when we didn't have appointments, perhaps they would be days for visits. =) 

4. The last tip that really stuck to me was to get some ME time
                  Me time currently equates to reading and sewing. Happiness! So perhaps one of baby's nap times can equate to a bit of me time. I already tagged a couple of sewing projects in these books. They've been keeping me company when I can't sleep at night. =) 

I know that when our little kicker comes, life will change and these four tips may or may not work... but it is nice to know that I have a starting point prior to the baby coming - and have a bit of a plan to fall back on so that I don't feel like I'm grasping for straws. 

I am oh so looking forward to being a mother... I just pray for the grace to be one that will do right by the child God has granted me. 

Do you have any tips for this transition? 



  1. I am also a stay at home mama and I love it! It has its challenges but it is HUGE blessing! Yes! Plan for some outing days or even play dates at your house! Picnics indoors with mommies and kiddos when weather is rough helps too! Having your hobby helps in a HUGE way! It is a big change bringing home your little bundle and it is a crazy transition but it is a beautiful time. Oh and one thing to remember if you do have baby blues do not be afraid to talk about them. It happens and it does not take away from this awesome time God has given you unless you let it! I had to learn that the hard way, but the second time I had a little one I recognized what was going on and was able to tackle those feelings! That first moment you hold your little one is one you will always remember and cherish! So happy for you both! Congrats!

    1. Thank you so much for the advice and the warm wishes! Indoor picnic play dates sound like so much fun! That one is definitely going into the journal of future activities =) I'm excited and nervous at the same time about this transition... but most of all I'm feeling blessed. I will have family visiting during the time that the baby is here so I hope that will help. Thanks again for the encouragement... I'm very touched.